hey guys,
i’ve finally made the decision to leave tumblr. i love my mutuals and friends on here very much, but i just can’t stay on here for another year. it’s neither productive nor healthy. i feel very bummed about doing this, but i’m just too tired to think about being on here for another year.
this isn’t an abrupt decision. i’ve talked to friends on Twitter a number of times about how this site has only become more of a source of anxiety for me and that i grow tired of the drama-saturated, constantly stressful environment that has always surrounded it. even within my own interests i find a lot of BS irritating to the point i become touchy and anxious. i’ve had a hard time looking at my own dash anymore! i just check on friends and post from my drafts now.
i’ve been on tumblr since mid-2011, and have only stayed here because of how attached i am to my mutuals and friends, whom i’ve gotten to know very well over the years. but the more i’ve stayed on here, it hasn’t helped my own coping with my anxiety. anytime my follower account starts increasing, i become more self-concious and worried about what i’m posting and who is
seeing it. still, i stayed on here since it became second nature to me to waste hours at a time on here, and because i’m so attached to my circle.i actually hit abreaking point back in the spring, where i quietly abandoned my old account and started this new one, thinking that things would get better and less irritating, and it was that way for a while. but things gradually went back to being a source of contention for me, and as someone getting older and having to handle Big Adult Problems, i don’t need any more of that in my life.
overall, i really hate having to abandon so many people i’ve grown to know and love, but at the same time, it’s time for me to move on. i will be leaving my blog up as an archive rather than deleting, but I won’t be updating it anymore or making anymore posts. i may log in once a week to answer messages from you all, and i have prepared a 170+ post queue of my remaining drafts, as well as this post so that people know that I’m not dead, but moving on to greener pastures.
i’m not disappearing forever into a void, but i’ll be on other sites where you all can reach me:
my Skype is youreameshi (it’s a new account, so even if you have my old one, add me if you’d like)
Twitter - locked for personal reasons, but i’ll add you if i know you
MFC - i’m on here a LOT.
MAL - i only update the manga list portion.
AO3 - still gonna be posting OPM (especially SaiRider) fics, so look forward to it!
8tracks - where all my fanmixes/FSTs are. i plan to make more of those too!
ask.fm - just made this account. if you have any questions for me, ask here!please do add me if you happen to have profiles/accounts on these sites! i’m really gonna miss a lot of you and would really love to keep in touch. you can also message me some of your own accounts so i can find you if you like. :’)
i wish everyone the best in all walks of life,
Elyssa (caped-cueball)
24 | f | istj
i'm no longer on tumblr; the rest of this blog runs on a queue
my twitter is @YoureAMeshi; my other accounts are right here
anime has so much potential as a medium of telling cool stories but so much of it is wasted on animating the same shot of a dude tripping and landing on a girl’s boobs over and over
Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”
I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.
I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”
Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.
Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.
It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.
It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.
Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:
Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.
Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.
Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.
Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”
TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:
- You do not respect their rights as an individual.
- You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
- You probably haven’t been listening to them.
Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.
Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.
i like it when saitama tries to act cool to rider like he sends out cheesy pick up lines or whatevs but rider just deadpans him like ‘ok saitama kun i get it u dont have to do this you’re really cool though i swear-” then saitama sulks
how to adult:
- make lots of lists
- make your bed
- send lots of emails and only cry maximum 5 minutes before making phone calls
- scream only mildly internally when strangers talk to you
- laundry sometimes
